Grant Me Love

If temperance be my virtue

I will think before I speak

If justice be my virtue

I will defend the weak

 

If fortitude be my virtue

I resolve to see things through

If prudence be my virtue

I will live by what is true

 

If faith be my virtue

I will trust the God of love

If hope be my virtue

I will lift my eyes above

 

But grant me one more virtue

To remain when others fade

Grant me love above all else

For none other I would trade

 

If love should by my virtue

I will see as Jesus sees

Compassion, peace, and mercy

Will flow freely out of me

 

If love should be my virtue

I will live as Jesus lived

By sacrifice and servanthood

With the grace to forgive


Author: Melody Farrell

Melody Farrell is the co-founder and acquisitions editor of Lost Poet Press. She also serves as co-pastor of Element Church Tampa and operations manager of Echo Media Group. She is associate director of Circle A Ranch, a program which teaches teenagers principles of leadership. She serves on the board of Grow Into You Foundation, a non-profit that provides coaching, mentoring, and housing for teens aging out of the foster care system. She is a wife, podcaster, musician, and mother of two from Sarasota, Florida.

Chosen, Blessed, Broken, Given

”And he took bread, gave thanks and broke it, and gave it to them, saying, “This is my body given for you; do this in remembrance of me.”“ ‭‭Luke‬ ‭22‬:‭19‬ ‭NIV‬‬



The Father chose His Beloved Son

Blessed Him with whom He was well pleased

Allowed the tyranny of sin to break His body

And gave Him for the ransom of the world 

The Son chose the bread in the upper room 

Blessed it with thanksgiving 

Broke it at the table for sharing

And gave it to His friends and betrayer  

The Spirit chose His people 

Blessed them with the inheritance of the Son

They are broken like the bread to share in His suffering

To be given for all who hunger

Author: Benjamin NeSmith

Benjamin NeSmith has spent his life working with people. He put his social science education degree to use teaching students of all ages, including those with special needs, for over a decade. He spent years as a recording and performing musician and is now a Certified Professional Coach and Pastor at Element Church Tampa. Benjamin enjoys family time, hiking, interior design, and creating meaningful liturgical experiences for others.

God of the Garden

God of the Garden

You gifted us with your

True Affection

Whole Perfection

The beauty of Eden 

Was a just glimpse of Your 

Own Reflection

God of the Garden

                  We broke your trust with our

                                    Prideful Rejection 

                                    Foolish Subjection

                  We deified ourselves

                  Our sin has cursed us with

                                    Utter Dejection

God of the Garden

                  You chose to free us

                                    Divine Revelation

                                    Complete Salvation

                  Your love made flesh

Your Garden made new in

                  Your Restoration

God of the Garden

                  We steward this space

                                    Faithful Conservation

Careful Curation

Awaiting Recreation

                  Guard and guide us

                  Form and inspire us

                                    Your incarnation

Author: Melody Farrell

Melody Farrell is the co-founder and acquisitions editor of Lost Poet Press. She also serves as co-pastor of Element Church Tampa and operations manager of Echo Media Group. She is associate director of Circle A Ranch, a program which teaches teenagers principles of leadership. She serves on the board of Grow Into You Foundation, a non-profit that provides coaching, mentoring, and housing for teens aging out of the foster care system. She is a wife, podcaster, musician, and mother of two from Sarasota, Florida.

On Forgiveness

We see darkness when we see shadow,

Not the sun that has been blocked.

We don’t think of the beauty of the meadows,

The potential of doors that are locked.

We see the world at that moment,

Anger and hate bubbling inside.

Our emotions are like a torrent,

And they blind us to what we could find.

Let us see deep inside others,

Let us see deep inside ourselves.

Understand your sisters and brothers,

Let forgiveness overwhelm.

See the sun blocked by the shadow.

See the good, the true, the right.

See the beauty of the meadows.

Forgive and be a light.

Author: Brenna Farrell

Brenna Farrell is a 9th grade high school student at the Classical Academy of Sarasota. She is an avid reader, a budding artist, and a Star Wars enthusiast. She is competes at the national level of the U.S. Academic Decathlon. She loves to spend her time with her gardening club and artist guild, where she is expanding her skills in writing. She loves to volunteer at her church and travel on grand adventures with her family. She is pursuing her dream of being an astrophysicist.

Work and Rest

I work, not because my value is to produce, but because my joy is to create.

I rest, not because I am pushed to exhaustion, but because I am designed for respite. 

I work, not to prove my worthiness, but to celebrate my extraordinary capability as a human being.

I rest, not as a failure of my capacity, but as a grateful acknowledgement of my limits as a human being.

I work, not to numb myself with stress and striving, but to participate in the vocation of living. 

I rest, not to numb myself with transient pleasures, but to surround myself with abiding beauty. 

I work, not because I owe it to God, but because He has trusted me to steward His creation.  

I rest, not because my stewardship is flawed, but because I am also a creature.

I work, not to forge a false identity, but to embrace my true reality. 

I rest, not in a posture of lethargy and apathy, but in a posture of leisure and worship. 

I work, not because I must strain against scarcity, but because I may partake of abundance.

I rest, not because I am ill and weary, but because I am becoming whole. 

I work, to fully embrace this precious, mysterious, sacred gift of life.

I rest, to contemplate the wonder of the glorious life to come. 

I work and rest, to honor both the example and the commands of my Creator. 

I work and rest, as an embodiment of Christ in me. 

Work, and rest.

Work, and rest.

Work, and rest, to the rhythm of the God who longs for the wholeness of His people. 

Author: Melody Farrell

Melody Farrell is the co-founder and acquisitions editor of Lost Poet Press. She also serves as co-pastor of Element Church Tampa and operations manager of Echo Media Group. She is associate director of Circle A Ranch, a program which teaches teenagers principles of leadership. She serves on the board of Grow Into You Foundation, a non-profit that provides coaching, mentoring, and housing for teens aging out of the foster care system. She is a wife, podcaster, musician, and mother of two from Sarasota, Florida.

Radical Receiving

Luke 7:36-39 (MSG)

One of the Pharisees asked him over for a meal. He went to the Pharisee’s house and sat down at the dinner table. Just then a woman of the village, the town harlot, having learned that Jesus was a guest in the home of the Pharisee, came with a bottle of very expensive perfume and stood at his feet, weeping, raining tears on his feet. Letting down her hair, she dried his feet, kissed them, and anointed them with the perfume. When the Pharisee who had invited him saw this, he said to himself, “If this man was the prophet I thought he was, he would have known what kind of woman this is who is falling all over him.”

This was an act of radical receiving.

Everything about this was outrageous - scandalous, even. This woman, a known prostitute, crashes a dinner party at a religious leader’s home. And now she’s approaching Jesus. She’s already brought the night to a screeching halt, but now she’s making it unbearably awkward with an outburst of emotion. She kneels at his feet and lets down her hair. The cultural and religious norm violations are raised to another level.

Now she is kissing the Rabbi’s feet with those “sinner’s” lips, and she is emptying an entire bottle of extremely expensive perfume on them. It’s inconceivable that she could have such a valuable item in the first place. And if she actually did buy it, they can all assume how she earned the money for such an extravagant purchase.

Remember that this is a deeply religious culture that was steeped in “clean” and “unclean” tradition. They weren’t supposed to even eat, much less touch certain foods under Mosaic law. The notion of what was “unclean,” or tainted and unholy, was rooted deep in their ethos. So, for this “unclean” woman, with her “unclean” body, and her “unclean” gift, bought with “unclean” money…this was beyond repugnant.

But, the perfume is emptied, and the aroma fills the shocked silence with a thickness – the weight of desperate and extravagant worship.

It’s one thing to imagine how scandalous a scene this was for them. But in order more accurately feel the scandal of such a story, allow me to pull it into our cultural context.

Imagine that you are hosting a formal Christmas dinner. Extended family and friends are there. Everyone looks wonderful in their nice reds and greens. The food smells delicious, and Christmas carols are playing in the background. As everyone is seated for dinner, the doorbell rings. A stranger enters. Everyone goes quiet. His backpack, clothes and smell indicate that he is of a different socioeconomic status than everyone else in the room. He approaches the table, spread with the Christmas feast, and begins to weep. Despite the obvious questions and awkwardness, everyone remains silent. Suddenly you recognize this man. You have seen his face on the news. He is the man who was sent away for molesting children, and he’s just been released from prison. And now, still weeping, he begins to open his backpack and give each child a small, handmade gift.

That feeling you have right now, that uncomfortable knot in your stomach - that is getting us closer to understanding this story of the woman anointing Jesus’ feet - both the outrageous giving and radical receiving.

How easy would it have been for Jesus to stop this? For Jesus to take it outside? For him to tell her that this should have been done in private? For him to spare her the embarrassment in front of everyone? How many of us would have even seen that as merciful? How many of us would have thought it wise for him to politely refuse? How many of us would have been frustrated that any progress Jesus could have made with the religious establishment was now ruined? How many of us would have seen a decision from Jesus to not radically receive this gift as righteous?

How many of us have bought into the notion that there is nobility in our refusal to receive? That we are preserving our own dignity by politely refusing? That we are preserving the dignity of the giver by politely refusing?

What if we have moralized refusing to receive as an essential quality of a good leader, parent, spouse, employee...of a person? But this is not what Jesus displays here. Jesus recognizes this radical gift – the expensive perfume, the party crash, the religious taboo and cultural norm violations – and he receives it radically...fully. He understands that radical giving requires radical receiving. He understands that radically receiving from someone is actually giving them a gift - the gift of receiving.

Radical receiving reflects the giver’s dignity back to them. Radical receiving communicates to the giver that their love is good and worthy of receiving. Radical receiving produces humility, because it requires us to be in touch with our needs and limitations. Whether we receive into a place where we have failed or hurt someone, or into a place where we don’t feel as though we have a deep need, we learn something more about the essence of grace and mercy.

Later, at the Last Supper, Jesus wants to wash the feet of his own disciples, showing them (and us) how valid, holy, and beautiful the woman’s gift was to him. When Jesus gets to Peter’s feet, the headstrong and passionate disciple refuses. He believes that the appropriate thing, the right thing, is for Jesus to not bend so low and take on the form of a servant. Little does he know that in just a few short hours, Jesus will humble himself even unto death on a cross.

Jesus lets Peter know that if he can’t radically receive his feet being washed by God Incarnate, then he can’t possibly be a part of what Christ is doing in the world going forward. Jesus is teaching him the way his kingdom purposes are accomplished: radically receiving from him so that Peter can radically give to others.

This is how Jesus did it, so it is how we do it. Let’s learn to be radical receivers. If we can’t, we just might be missing the whole thing.

Author: Benjamin NeSmith

Benjamin NeSmith has spent his life working with people. He put his social science education degree to use teaching students of all ages, including those with special needs, for over a decade. He spent years as a recording and performing musician and is now a Certified Professional Coach and Pastor at Element Church Tampa. Benjamin enjoys family time, hiking, interior design, and creating meaningful liturgical experiences for others.

Parable of the Lamb

Once upon a time there lived a horse. He was the strongest, tallest, handsomest horse in all the land. Every day he would run through the meadow for hours, strengthening and stretching his muscles from dawn until dusk. He ate only the finest grasses and would never nibble on a sweet treat in the forest. He drank from the purest streams and found the most restful, silent places to sleep at night.

But the horse was foolish. He had no time for learning or study, and no sources of wisdom to help him increase his own.

And the horse was lonely. He had no friends who could keep up with his running, and he spent most of his days alone.

And the horse was sad. While he was the finest, fittest creature in the land, he had no purpose outside of his strong body.

One day, an owl perched upon a tree and spoke to the horse.

“You are a foolish creature,” the owl taunted. “You spend all your time building up your muscles and strengthening your body, but what good will that do you when trouble comes? You should forget your body and strengthen your mind, like me.”

The owl was the smartest creature in the forest, for the owl had dedicated his days to studying philosophy and learning about culture and history and math and science. He could quote the greatest thinkers of all time, and he could spend hours reading. He carefully curated his learning and refused to allow foolish ideas to enter his mental space. He learned daily and wrote long journals of all the wisdom he had collected.

But the owl was weak. He did not care for his body, and he could fly only a short distance before becoming exhausted.

And the owl was lonely. In his effort to protect his mind from folly, he had driven his friends and family away.

And the owl was sad. His intelligence and study had not brought him to any great purpose for his life.

As the owl loomed in pride over the horse, a dog approached them.

“You’ve both got it wrong!” the dog laughed. “Look at you, lonely and friendless. All your work to strengthen your body and sharpen your mind has left you all alone! You should forget all that work and spend your time making friends!”

The dog was the most social creature in the forest, for the dog had dedicated his life to collecting friends. He would spend his days meeting new animals and inviting them to his home. He would share his food and stories with them, laughing and chatting until late in the evenings. He never met a stranger, and all the animals enjoyed his kindness and generosity.

But the dog was sick. All the food he ate with his friends was making him too heavy, and he couldn’t get around the way he used to.

And the dog was silly. He liked to laugh with his friends, but he had never learned anything about the world and never stretched his mind.

And the dog was secretly sad. All the friends he collected never seemed like quite enough to fill the space inside of him.

As the dog continued to smirk at the horse and the owl, a tiger approached the group.

“You’re all missing the mark,” he taunted. “You think that your body or your mind or your friends will give you a happy life? All of it fades away. The only thing that really matters is being at one with the universe.”

The tiger was the most spiritual creature in the forest, for the tiger had dedicated his life to pursuing mindfulness and meditation. He would spend his days walking alone in silence, contemplating spirituality and the meaning of life. He had no time for others, for he found peace and tranquility in his own pursuits of the divine.

But the tiger was frail, for he had never run like tigers are born to do.

And the tiger was foolish, for he had no time for learning from others.

And the tiger was lonely, for none of the other creatures wanted to be near him. 

The animals looked at each other, wondering which of them was truly the most satisfied and fulfilled in life.

Just then, a lamb appeared from behind a tree.

“I think you’re all lovely,” the lamb said kindly. “You work hard at what is important to you, and you have each become great in your own ways. I wonder, though… what you could learn from each other?”

The animals gazed at the lamb. He was humble, and kind, and beautiful in his own way.

For the lamb was the happiest creature in the forest.

His body was strong, for he loved to run and play in the meadow every morning.

His mind was smart, for he took a few hours each evening to read and learn.

His friends were plentiful, for he always remembered to be kind and respectful to everyone.

And his purpose was clear, for he never forgot that he was a creature, made by the Creator who loved him so.

The lamb was not the strongest, or the smartest, or the most popular, or the most spiritual.

The lamb was simply the most whole.

Author: Melody Farrell

Melody Farrell is the co-founder and acquisitions editor of Lost Poet Press. She also serves as co-pastor of Element Church Tampa and operations manager of Echo Media Group. She is associate director of Circle A Ranch, a program which teaches teenagers principles of leadership. She serves on the board of Grow Into You Foundation, a non-profit that provides coaching, mentoring, and housing for teens aging out of the foster care system. She is a wife, podcaster, musician, and mother of two from Sarasota, Florida.

Running With Abandon

The father in the story of the prodigal son is our picture of Mature love. He runs with arms wide open, ready to embrace his son. It doesn’t matter to the father whether or not he looked silly while running towards his son. It doesn’t matter to the father if someone judges him for the outpouring of his love. It doesn’t matter to the father that the son, his son, came home smelling like pigs and sweat. What mattered was love being released. What mattered was embracing his commingled son with the joy of reunion and the possibility of restoration.

That’s it. That’s us.

That’s who we are invited to become.

Like the father, we run with abandon towards the good, the broken, and the future.

How beautiful!

We abandon any concerns about how we look in our celebration of the good. Maybe grace and mercy look foolish. Maybe forgiveness looks foolish. But mature love isn't worried about that. We aren’t trying to be religiously pious or academically elite. We don’t need approval or validation. Mature love is completely secure in its identity, so it can celebrate the good with abandon. We can dance and sing and rejoice and laugh.

We abandon any fear about personal loss or damage in our mourning of the broken. We aren’t going to be contaminated. We aren’t afraid of reputation or discomfort. The rushing river of Mature Love within us can’t be tempered with such fears. Mature love overflows with grief for that which is broken, so it chooses to be near to those who weep and those who mourn. Mourning can often mean wrestling with God. Mature love knows that embracing does not mean fixing the broken things. Embracing simply means the action of joining; suffering alongside. That is enough.

We abandon any pretense of control when we choose to participate in the future. Mature love doesn’t suppose it has the power to write history. Mature love simply trusts in the story that leads to redemption, wholeness, and shalom, then looks for ways to be a part of it. With imagination and vision, we speak to others about who they are and who they will become. Wherever there is a movement to set things right, we are there to participate.

Author: Zach Elliott

Zach Elliott describes himself as an ordinary man who loves Jesus. Anyone who knows Zach Elliott would describe him as far from ordinary. Zach began his career with Oregon State Police as a Forensic Evidence Technician, then served as a church planter and a pastor before launching V3, a ministry committed to sharing the Gospel and loving the Church. He is a husband, father, speaker, author, and thought leader, engaging the world with a powerful message of hope and restoration in Christ. He has a contagious love of life, finds beauty in the most unlikely places, and loves people with an uncommon depth of respect and honor.

This excerpt is quoted from Zach’s book, Now I See.

Observation

The skill of observation is one that will be of value to us in many different areas of life. As employees, as leaders, as parents, as bosses, as humans ... a keen sense of observation will be an asset to us in many facets of our journey. Even in the process of self-awareness, we need to develop the ability to observe things that are going on inside us and around us so that we can work towards enhancing the good things and correcting the not-so-good things.

When we are actively observing, our aim is to observe as much as possible, not just the point of focus in whatever is happening. Imagine we are watching a basketball game. We are usually focused on the ball and the action going on right there. If we widen our scope, how much more do we see? Players on the other side of the court are setting up a play and the defensive players are responding. Coaches are shouting instructions from the bench. Perhaps a player that left the game injured is about to come back in. A lot more is going on than just what is happening around the ball.

The same is true for our lives. Oftentimes when we are striving to achieve something, we are focused on it. This isn’t a bad thing, in fact I’ve often taught on how to get laser-focused. What I’m addressing here is that there’s a lot more going on that we should be aware of than just the point of focus. My experience has taught me that if we don’t at least occasionally check what’s going on in the periphery, it will impact what’s happening at the point of focus.

Another important part of observation is learning when to look for certain things. There are cues that we can learn that will help set us up to observe what is most important. For example, when I first meet someone, my sense of observation is heightened. I observe words, tone of voice, body language, eye contact, degree of engagement, degree of distraction, etc. I know all of these things are important in any conversation, but particularly when I am meeting someone new. Recently I was in a large gathering, meeting many people for the first time. A friendly young man was standing just behind me in line. I said to him, “Do I need to stand on my head to know your name?” You see, he was wearing his name badge upside down.

He laughed and said, “You must be a very observant person. I have talked to over 50 people and you are the first one to even notice how I put my nametag upside down. I did it on purpose hoping it would start conversations.”

Let’s think about how we can expand our scope to see more of what is going on, and let’s be deliberate about learning when to be especially observant. Let’s observe ourselves as we pursue our goals, taking the time to look around every so often to see all the things that are going to impact our focus or our outcome.

Author: Skip Ross

Skip Ross was the owner, founder, and director of Circle A Ranch. He and his wife Susan dedicated their lives to making a difference in the development of teens through their ministry and spent the over 40 years giving their summers to the work of Circle A.

Skip authored the books Say Yes to Your Potential and Daily Disciplines, and created the Dynamic Living Seminar and the Thrive Study Series. He traveled the globe teaching the principles of attitude development and leadership to millions of people for over 50 years. He also recorded numerous audio and video teachings that have been distributed around the world with the help of Network 21 and podcasts.

He was a successful business executive, recording artist, and motivational speaker. He was founder and president of the OFIDA Project, on the Board of Directors of the Fred L. Hansen Corp., a Crown IBO with Amway, and a graduate of Westmont College and Fuller Theological Seminary. He worked with many different ministry organizations over the years but had most recently been working with the Equip Organization, founded by John Maxwell, to produce highly effective Christian leaders around the world.

Skip Ross went home to be with Jesus on June 13th, 2021, at the age of 82.

This excerpt is taken from Skip’s book, Daily Disciplines.

 

Deconstructing Pride

In his pride the wicked man does not seek him; in all his thoughts there is no room for God. Psalm 10:4 (NIV)

This is a pretty solid definition of pride. But a definition is only a beginning of understanding, not the end of it. Let’s see if we can deconstruct pride a little further.

I can still remember a fiery sermon from when I was young. The preacher was very worked up about how pride is the root of all our sin, and that we have just stop being prideful. In fact, I’ve encountered many sermons, blogs posts, and books that seek to make clear that we are bad, prideful creatures who just can’t help but to puff ourselves up to be better than what we are. And it’s this pride that is at the root of all sin.

But what I’m interested in is the root of all pride.

What is behind, or underneath it? Why do we need to assert ourselves, compare ourselves, and judge others?

One word, three letters: ego – the “me” that tries to translate between my conscious and unconscious self; the part of me that my pride is trying to protect. The false self. The self that is disconnected from the Source and Essence of Love and in protest about this detachment. Richard Rohr writes extensively on this and calls it “the fortress of I.”

Within the fortress of I, the ego needs to defend, to be seen, to justify, to be understood, to ensure that no one is going to take advantage of me. What do all these things have in common? Fear.

Our need to be seen signifies our fear that we will be overlooked, which would confirm to us our fear that we are unlovable. Our need to justify or to be understood signifies our fear of being misunderstood, which would confirm to us our fear that we are unknowable. Our need to make sure that no one is taking advantage of us signifies a fear that we are going to be devalued, which would confirm to us our fear that we are not valuable.

So why go into all of this? Why get at the root of pride?

Because once we see it for what it really is – the fear of our ego which is trying to protect us - it actually becomes more manageable. Most monsters lose their power in the light. So, we bring it to light to see that pride is more than just something we should “just stop doing.” Pride is something to which we must pay attention.

In his book, Everything Belongs, Rohr writes: “The wounds to our ego are our teachers and must be welcomed. They must be paid attention to, not litigated.”

Litigation means taking an issue to court, and that is what pride does. It holds up the technicalities of the law so that it can defend, prosecute, justify, and seek acquittal. But the problem is that this courtroom metaphor just doesn’t work with Jesus.

Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death. Romans 8:1-2 (NIV)

No condemnation - this applies to the judgment we heap on ourselves as well.

This is really important to understand, because there is a direct correlation between our judgment and our pride. The more judgment we harbor, the more pride is in control. The more our ego is in control, the more judgmental we are.

If we’re still judging others or ourselves, we are still stuck in ego-mode, justifying our opinions and our very existence to God, others, and ourselves. But once we realize that there is no condemnation left for us, we see that we are free to simply observe and learn from the times that we catch our pride in action.

So, what could happen if we started paying attention to the things that prick our egos?

When I feel the need to compare myself to someone else so that I feel good about me – why is that, really? What is my ego trying to conceal? What am I really afraid of? When I feel the need to correct someone – why is that, really? What I am really afraid of? When I find myself longing to get the credit, striving to keep score, getting offended when someone else is praised – why is that, really? What am I really afraid of?

Here it is, and this is really, really important: when our ego feels wounded, it isn’t really our ego that is wounded. It’s that our ego is letting us know of a wound that is already there.

But remember what Rohr wrote about the wounds to our egos actually being teachers? You see, the moments when our pride bucks up to defend the pre-existing wounds our egos are trying to protect – that is an opportunity to see a place inside ourselves where we have not fully received the never-ending mercy and inexhaustible grace of God.

When we do, the false self can lower its weapons as the gates of the “fortress of I” open wide to an invasion of grace, ending the siege of the ego and ushering in an age of union with the Source of life, freedom, essence, and love.

Author: Benjamin NeSmith

Benjamin NeSmith has spent his life working with people. He put his social science education degree to use teaching students of all ages, including those with special needs, for over a decade. He spent years as a recording and performing musician and is now a Certified Professional Coach and Pastor at Element Church Tampa. Benjamin enjoys family time, hiking, interior design, and creating meaningful liturgical experiences for others.

Drawing Near To The Brokenhearted

From thin fractures of the heart to the chasms of devastated cities, mature love sees hurt and fear and regret. It sees racism, injustice, violence and abuse. Mature love recognizes lust, greed, deceit, and pride. It sees the lonely and the outcast, the refugee and the bullied. It sees those who mourn and those who feel betrayed. Mature love witnesses disease and pollution. It sees giving up, and giving in. It sees the reasons that we don’t speak. It sees the pain that we try to hide. Mature love recognizes failure and suffering and decay and death. All of it.

The response of mature love to these things? It is not fear or hopelessness.

It is not shame or despair or regret or anger.

It is not indifference.

The response is compassion.

Compassion is disruption deep inside us that moves us to suffer with another. It is a feeling so strong that it compels us to draw near enough to embrace the broken. Scripture uses this kind of language to describe God being close enough to touch us. “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted.”[1]

Compassion does not take place in abstraction. Sympathetic emojis decorating our text threads do not express the gut-wrenching, bowel-unsettling force of compassion that Jesus demonstrated. When He saw a widow weeping as the body of her only son was carried out through a city gate, he was moved with immense compassion. “He walked over to the coffin and touched it,”[2] coming near enough to touch both the shattered life and the broken heart.

What an incredible honor to draw near, to bear witness, and to share in suffering and tears. Do we think about it this way? We should. In these holy moments, when compassion flows, the love of the Father flows through us to His children. These are the moments of deep communion between Creator and creatures. This humbles us and reminds us to be slow to speak and quick to listen. Our presence and compassion in the midst of suffering ushers in the presence and compassion of Christ.

In these moments we confess, “We do not know what to do, but we are looking to you for help.”[3] Have mercy, Lord, in these situations where we don't have the capacity to understand or fix. Compassion allows us to love in a way that we otherwise cannot. It allows us to enjoy the company of those who seldom enjoy company, to see the forgotten and remind them of their inherent worth, to recognize the anguish that no one else notices, and to be present in places of tears. Compassion flows from our embrace and gives purpose to our noticing of the broken.

When we choose compassion for the broken one, we foster compassion for all. At all times, in all seasons, the posture of our heart towards humanity remains compassionate. We have seen God in a new way, we have seen ourselves in a new way, and now we see others in a new way… with our Father’s eyes of compassion and love.

Author: Zach Elliott

Zach Elliott describes himself as an ordinary man who loves Jesus. Anyone who knows Zach Elliott would describe him as far from ordinary. Zach began his career with Oregon State Police as a Forensic Evidence Technician, then served as a church planter and a pastor before launching V3, a ministry committed to sharing the Gospel and loving the Church. He is a husband, father, speaker, author, and thought leader, engaging the world with a powerful message of hope and restoration in Christ. He has a contagious love of life, finds beauty in the most unlikely places, and loves people with an uncommon depth of respect and honor.

This excerpt is quoted from Zach’s book, Now I See.

[1] Psalm 34:18 NLT

[2] Luke 7:14 NLT

[3] 2 Chronicles 20:12 NLT

Broken Whole

I once thought growth

Happened in a straight line

Over time

Tenacity and grit

Expanding it 

Into completion

And then I was beaten

Shattered and scattered

Across the acres of my years

My tears tell the story of 

My ache 

My break

 

Shall I put the pieces back together

Aligned and resigned

To becoming what used to be?

Old me?

Or shall there be something new that

Becomes of the broken

Something different awoken 

Something the whole of me

Longed to be

Beyond the reaches of my capacity

 

What mosaic shall I make

Of these loves and longings 

These cares and callings? 

What shall I form 

from the torn places and battered spaces?

And if I dare to pair 

These pieces anew

Will I be judged and mocked?

Will I be scorned and blocked?

 

Something waits at the gates 

Of my guarded heart

A spark

A power that comes to restore 

Even more

Than what has been lost

Nomatter the cost

A song

Rises and ripples through the

Fog of my pain

And again 

I sing along

 

Oh God I break

So You can remake

My soul

A broken whole

Author: Melody Farrell

Melody Farrell is the co-founder and acquisitions editor of Lost Poet Press. She also serves as co-pastor of Element Church Tampa and operations manager of Echo Media Group. She is associate director of Circle A Ranch, a program which teaches teenagers principles of leadership. She serves on the board of Grow Into You Foundation, a non-profit that provides coaching, mentoring, and housing for teens aging out of the foster care system. She is a wife, podcaster, musician, and mother of two from Sarasota, Florida.

Layers of Shame

For many years I taught a class about shame and grace as part of a class at George Fox University. I used to do different exercises with it, and one of them was called “layers of shame”. The day the students came in for the exercise, I would have them bring bedsheets. Then I would arrange the students in a circle, with someone sitting in the middle of the circle. The person sitting in the center was kind of our test subject, and they were there to represent the whole class. We would then begin to talk about places of shame. Sometimes the shame was about their personal lives, sometimes it was more theoretical. Each time someone would bring up a new shame illustration, I would have that person go lay a sheet on top of the person in the center of the room.

We would do that again and again and again until that one person had eight or nine or ten sheets over top of them, sort of representing the layers of separation and disconnect that shame causes in relationships.

After the sheets had been added, we would talk to the person who was in the center of the room, blanketed with all these layers of shame. They always said the same sorts of things: they felt it getting darker and darker as the layers piled on; they felt more and more cut off from the relationships in the room. But the funny thing is, they almost always said that, after a while, they got kind of comfortable under there. They were cut off, they were alone, it was dark ... but it was kind of okay. They were so disconnected that they stopped feeling the disconnect after a while. The layers became like a sort of coping mechanism.

But that wasn’t the end of the exercise. After we had piled all the layers on, we began to remove them by talking about redeeming those moments of shame. We would read grace statements, and we would have people go forward, one by one, to take a layer off. Little by little, sort of like going from that tank down to that bike, the person under the layers of shame would find more and more freedom. They would hear more. They would see more. Finally, the last sheet would come off and they were back in the room with us.

Every time I did that exercise, I would have at least one student who would say something like, "I wanted to go up and rip all of the sheets of shame off of the person when we got done with the shame statements. That disconnection and alienation felt so horrible, and I wanted to bring them back all at once so they could be with us again."

Every time somebody said that, do you know what the person underneath the sheets said? "I'm glad you didn't do that. I wasn't ready for 8 - 10 sheets to be taken off of me all at once. I had to kind of reintegrate enough to remember that there are other people in the room. I had to start hearing your voices, seeing the light come in. The weight lifted slowly, and that was a good thing. I wanted to go through the process, to experience each layer of healing."

I will always remember that. We have to appreciate the value of the process as we help ourselves and others find healing. It’s a journey, and it takes time.

Author: Dr. Richard Shaw

Dr. Richard Shaw is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Mental Health Counselor. He is an ordained minister with the International Foursquare Church and he is an Associate Professor of Counseling at George Fox University. He has traveled extensively in the U.S. and overseas to teach and facilitate workshops for his groundbreaking work around shame and grace. Richard is originally from the great state of Nebraska and currently lives with his wife, Karen, in the pacific Northwest. He loves both college and pro football and he enjoys spending time on the Oregon Coast. He has two adult children in education and ministry.

This excerpt is taken from Dr. Shaw’s book, Shame No More.

Jennifer's Garden

Jennifer was beautiful. A young mom in her late 30’s, she and her husband had two young boys and a seemingly flourishing life. But all was not as it seemed. Jennifer concealed a private struggle with depression. Even those closest to her had no idea the pain and brokenness she carried inside.

One night she went missing. Her husband reached out to a police officer who attended our church. A search party formed, and our little church embraced and cared for the group that looked for her. Days turned into weeks before the tragic news shattered her family and our small town.

Jennifer had taken her own life.

In the midst of that tragedy, new relationships were formed. My life became fused together with Jennifer’s parents, her husband, and her kids. I remember the hours spent crying on the front steps of our old, stone church, hurting for this family who had lost one they held so dear.

In the year following Jennifer’s death, I would often make time to join her family, to listen, and to embrace. One Christmas Eve, I brought our kids with me to visit Jennifer’s mom. We brought a bouquet of red flowers and some hearts full of love. We talked for a bit before I began to notice some leaves which had collected in the yard. I saw a simple thread and offered a hand to rake her yard and remove the leaves.

As I left that day, my mind drifted into the future. I remembered a conversation that I had had with a hospital chaplain once. He talked about the deep fear of being forgotten or forgetting loved ones who had died, especially for children. As I remembered this, I glimpsed an opportunity to come right up against the seam dividing the seen and unseen, to somehow affirm the reality that those we lose are more present than we may realize. I wanted Jennifer’s boys to remember her, and for her life and beauty to be part of their memory. I knew we needed to create space for that remembrance to come alive.

At the time our church operated a beautiful home called the Hillside Inn, a place for prodigals to find a space to rest, heal, and grow. The Inn sat on a large corner lot on the very edge of a small town in Oregon, right where the sidewalk disappears into the Red Hills of wine country. It was a beautiful space, but the yard had not been cultivated. Another thread began to take form in my mind and heart.

What if, in this place, at this commingled intersection of good and broken and future, we honored Jennifer’s story? What if we created a garden that Jennifer’s boys could enter and remember their mom? What if that place could offer hope, even in the midst of great tragedy? What if this garden was open and yet set apart, free for the weary and thirsty, the heavy laden, the broken, those privately carrying the great pain of depression? What if they could find rest?

Jennifer’s Garden was born from this thread. Time was given, treasure was laid, little by little until an entire community gathered in embrace. That very good ground was touched by hands animated by the Spirit of Perfect Love. Jennifer’s family joined the creative work, adding subtle and intentional remembrances that would have been special and pleasing to their beloved.

Her story, her life, and her death were not hidden. There was no sense of shame or disgrace, only the honesty of real loss, real mourning, and a place to be near the hurting and the broken. The good, broken, and future commingled here in this place, embraced by Perfect Love. Wounds found healing with every load of bark and every plant nurtured. It was absolutely stunning to see the dawn of so much light flood right into the darkness. Gratitude, compassion, and hope echoed through the hearts of all who came to the garden.

Love was alive.

Author: Zach Elliott

Zach Elliott describes himself as an ordinary man who loves Jesus. Anyone who knows Zach Elliott would describe him as far from ordinary. Zach began his career with Oregon State Police as a Forensic Evidence Technician, then served as a church planter and a pastor before launching V3, a ministry committed to sharing the Gospel and loving the Church. He is a husband, father, speaker, author, and thought leader, engaging the world with a powerful message of hope and restoration in Christ. He has a contagious love of life, finds beauty in the most unlikely places, and loves people with an uncommon depth of respect and honor.

This excerpt is quoted from Zach’s book, Now I See.

A Shielded Safety

I really enjoy Star Trek, and I have taken the time to watch it over the years. In the show, whenever a confrontation between two starships happens, the captains are given updates about the “shields” and how they are holding. The more recent technologies of Star Trek shields work as a force field around the ship, a bubble to protect the ship and its crew from external dangers. Some shields even have a cloaking capability, which renders the ship invisible to any outside forces. It occurs to me that our comfort zones work pretty much the same way: they exist to protect us from dangers that we perceive are coming near. A difference here is that the shields on Star Trek can be lowered pretty easily; the same cannot be said of the comfort zone.

The idea of lowering our shields when we feel faced with a threat is certainly counterintuitive to our human nature. We know that we are safe in our comfort zone, and if safety is our primary purpose in life, then our shields should indeed remain perpetually raised.

I believe, however, that our primary purpose in life is not safety.

And so, friends, we must be brave. We must lower our shields, and we must welcome the trials and challenges and growth opportunities that are sure to come our way. In Star Trek, the shields prevent anyone from transporting on or off the ship. If anyone wants to leave or come aboard, the shields must be down. Think of that analogy for a moment. Do you want to spend your whole life aboard a star ship? Or are there perhaps other worlds to explore? Are there perhaps other people who will make your life meaningful ... people that one day you will want to bring aboard with you? You’ll never know if your shields are up.

How do we lower our shields and move outside the comfort zone? It begins with a deliberate choice. We take small steps of exploration and bravery, and what we usually find is that we are far stronger than we ever gave ourselves credit for. Enough successful experiences erode our fears and make us bolder. We discover that our fear dissipates in the excited anticipation of the unknown challenge and adventure that lies on the path to becoming all that we are created to be.

Author: Skip Ross

Skip Ross was the owner, founder, and director of Circle A Ranch. He and his wife Susan dedicated their lives to making a difference in the development of teens through their ministry and spent the over 40 years giving their summers to the work of Circle A.

Skip authored the books Say Yes to Your Potential and Daily Disciplines, and created the Dynamic Living Seminar and the Thrive Study Series. He traveled the globe teaching the principles of attitude development and leadership to millions of people for over 50 years. He also recorded numerous audio and video teachings that have been distributed around the world with the help of Network 21 and podcasts.

He was a successful business executive, recording artist, and motivational speaker. He was founder and president of the OFIDA Project, on the Board of Directors of the Fred L. Hansen Corp., a Crown IBO with Amway, and a graduate of Westmont College and Fuller Theological Seminary. He worked with many different ministry organizations over the years but has most recently been working with the Equip Organization, founded by John Maxwell, to produce highly effective Christian leaders around the world.

Skip Ross went home to be with Jesus on June 13th, 2021, at the age of 82.

This excerpt is taken from Skip’s book, Daily Disciplines.

 

Pioneer of Possibility

The way ahead has not been mapped,

For none have gone before me.

I cannot follow trails or tracks,

No, this is a new story. 

 

This crossroads begs no turning back;

Ahead is all I know.

And yet without a guide or map,

Wherever shall I go?

 

To climb a mountain yet unseen,

Or ford river wide,

Or sail across an unknown sea

Will take more than my pride. 

 

I must learn how to blaze a trail,

Since others long to come.

A guiding light might still prevail,

So steady, I go on. 

 

No roads, no maps, no trails or tracks

And yet, perhaps one tool

A compass may yet guide my path

And lead me by its rule.

 

The One True North will call to me

When darkness clouds my view.

With time and care I’ll learn to see

And find the best way through. 

 

Into the woods I go at last,

The country undiscovered.

The future pulls me from the past

And I will travel onward.

 

The ancient ways will cast out fear,

And then I’ll be set free.

I find myself a pioneer

Of possibility.

Author: Melody Farrell

Melody Farrell is the co-founder and acquisitions editor of Lost Poet Press. She also serves as co-pastor of Element Church Tampa and operations manager of Echo Media Group. She is associate director of Circle A Ranch, a program which teaches teenagers principles of leadership. She serves on the board of Grow Into You Foundation, a non-profit that provides coaching, mentoring, and housing for teens aging out of the foster care system. She is a wife, podcaster, musician, and mother of two from Sarasota, Florida.

Slowing Down To Notice

Something powerful takes place when we learn to be fully present physically, mentally, relationally, and spiritually. Noticing brings us into the present and demands that we move slower and engage each moment more thoughtfully and intentionally. Is it too much to suggest that worshiping created things rather than the Creator is to have an entire world of people looking down instead of looking up, fixated on small screens, shares, likes, and finger swipes? What are we doing? These shadows are not what we were made to see.

Can we really claim to walk in the light if we continue to notice only what we learned to see in the dark?

One time when my family and I visited Disney World, I asked them to slow down and take a moment to notice what was around them. We pointed out all the things we saw that were good. There were many! It was Disney World, after all. We paused a while longer to look for the broken, and there it was. In the happiest place on earth!

My kids noticed some trash on the ground that was rather out of place for the usually pristine environment. They also noticed the noise level. It was wildly loud. We noticed a young boy in a wheelchair. His limbs were twisted and his expression vacant. When my kids first noticed him, they didn’t see anything broken. To them, he was just like any other person enjoying the happiest place on earth. I found their acceptance delightful. But at the same time, it allowed us to have a conversation about what it might be like when all things are made whole, when that young boy could run freely at their side. We noticed the broken commingled with the good, and we looked to the future.

My wife and I are learning to live with Vision Out each day as we help our kids develop a habit of noticing. Together we are learning to travel through our days with curiosity and wonder, looking for the good, the broken, and the future. This habit lifts our heads and opens the door to new connections, unexpected delights, honest tears, new relationships, critical thinking, and good conversation. Life to the full means noticing the commingled reality of this wonderful, complex, confusing, challenging, beautiful, tragic and exhilarating human experience.

Live slow.

Look again and again.

Author: Zach Elliott

Zach Elliott describes himself as an ordinary man who loves Jesus. Anyone who knows Zach Elliott would describe him as far from ordinary. Zach began his career with Oregon State Police as a Forensic Evidence Technician, then served as a church planter and a pastor before launching V3, a ministry committed to sharing the Gospel and loving the Church. He is a husband, father, speaker, author, and thought leader, engaging the world with a powerful message of hope and restoration in Christ. He has a contagious love of life, finds beauty in the most unlikely places, and loves people with an uncommon depth of respect and honor.

This excerpt is quoted from Zach’s book, Now I See.

 

Love Is A Choice

The most powerful choice you will ever make in your life is the choice to love.

During the Dynamic Living seminar at Circle A, we devote one of the longest sessions to the topic of love. I have consistently and regularly received feedback that this portion of the seminar is incredibly impactful and paradigm shifting for the campers who attend.

In the world we live in, love is distorted to be something it is not. Our music sends the message that we “fall in love”, and our movies give us the idea that we just might meet someone who is our perfect “soul mate”. Unfortunately, these same media sources seem to indicate that it is about as easy to “fall out of love” as it is to “fall in love”. Although these emotions and experiences do occur, many buy into the idea that these feelings are the basis for a relationship of love. They believe that if these emotions cease to exist, then the love must have fizzled and died. If we believe this, we are often left searching for this lasting euphoria. We are left disillusioned when we discover the more difficult parts of all human relationships.

The thesis of the love seminar at Circle A is that we are all inherently lovable. We derive a worth and value that is not based on anything we do or become. It is based solely on the fact that we are beautiful, unique, individual creations of God. When we arrive at the conclusion that we are all inherently lovable, then for us to love anyone ... all we have to do is decide. There isn’t anything we have to do; there are no conditions or expectations to meet that make us lovable.

Before Susan and I were married, she would often ask me what I loved about her. I refused to give her an answer. I didn’t want to put a condition on my love for her. As an example, if I said that I loved her hair, and then something happened one day that made her lose her hair, she could begin to doubt my love for her. At first this was somewhat upsetting to Susan, but as we talked more and I explained why, she understood and deeply appreciated the fact that my love for her is a choice. We developed ways to complement each other without it creating conditional love.

This concept of love being a decision extends to far more relationships than marriage. Is there something your kids could do that would negate your love for them? How about your parents? Or your friends?

Today, let’s think about what our relationships would look like if our love were truly unconditional. Let’s think about what our world would look like if we treated people as though their worth was inherent in their existence and not based on living up to a set of criteria. Let’s think about the way we love ourselves too. What sort of criteria are we placing on our own worth?

Author: Skip Ross

Skip Ross was the owner, founder, and director of Circle A Ranch. He and his wife Susan dedicated their lives to making a difference in the development of teens through their ministry and spent the over 40 years giving their summers to the work of Circle A.

Skip authored the books Say Yes to Your Potential and Daily Disciplines, and created the Dynamic Living Seminar and the Thrive Study Series. He traveled the globe teaching the principles of attitude development and leadership to millions of people for over 50 years. He also recorded numerous audio and video teachings that have been distributed around the world with the help of Network 21 and podcasts.

He was a successful business executive, recording artist, and motivational speaker. He was founder and president of the OFIDA Project, on the Board of Directors of the Fred L. Hansen Corp., a Crown IBO with Amway, and a graduate of Westmont College and Fuller Theological Seminary. He worked with many different ministry organizations over the years but has most recently been working with the Equip Organization, founded by John Maxwell, to produce highly effective Christian leaders around the world.

Skip Ross went home to be with Jesus on June 13th, 2021, at the age of 82.

 

This excerpt is taken from Skip’s book, Daily Disciplines.

 

The Garden

the garden waits

expecting life

and beauty will follow

after all

after fall

sweater weather seems

to last forever

until

unexpectedly

life appears suddenly

surprised

we really shouldn’t be

expecting life

is pregnancy

waiting first expectantly

Hope Begotten mystery

life matures in wombs

quietly

the whisper heard

speaking

outside every speechless tomb

bowing

silently

as life appears like it counted

down from three

still surprised

we really shouldn’t be

the garden was made for spring

made to sing

made to ring

made to fling out broad a name

like the rest

but not

One

but we’re not the same

mortal things forever witnessing

his Life conquering

Death where’s your sting?

life’s a symphony

scored brilliantly

a finished work playing endlessly

lovely in each masterpiece

you and me

the garden waits

but now on first of days

it’s early spring

a new creation

echoing

words that summon

earth’s great kings:

He is risen indeed!

Author: Zach Elliott

Zach Elliott describes himself as an ordinary man who loves Jesus. Anyone who knows Zach Elliott would describe him as far from ordinary. Zach began his career with Oregon State Police as a Forensic Evidence Technician, then served as a church planter and a pastor before launching V3, a ministry committed to sharing the Gospel and loving the Church. He is a husband, father, speaker, author, and thought leader, engaging the world with a powerful message of hope and restoration in Christ. He has a contagious love of life, finds beauty in the most unlikely places, and loves people with an uncommon depth of respect and honor.

God's Discipline

I love the way Eugene Peterson interprets this passage from Hebrews.

My dear child, don’t shrug off God’s discipline, but don’t be crushed by it either. It’s the child he loves that he disciplines; the child he embraces, he also corrects.

God is educating you; that’s why you must never drop out. He’s treating you as dear children. This trouble you’re in isn’t punishment; it’s training, the normal experience of children. Only irresponsible parents leave children to fend for themselves. Would you prefer an irresponsible God? We respect our own parents for training and not spoiling us, so why not embrace God’s training so we can truly live? While we were children, our parents did what seemed best to them. But God is doing what is best for us, training us to live God’s holy best. At the time, discipline isn’t much fun. It always feels like it’s going against the grain. Later, of course, it pays off handsomely, for it’s the well-trained who find themselves mature in their relationship with God.

Hebrews 12:5-11 MSG

It’s an intriguing and important metaphor to see God as a disciplinarian, but a lot of people have trouble with that. A lot of people have trouble comparing God to their parents, especially in terms of discipline. It’s either because their parents genuinely inflicted trauma on them and they sustained long-term wounds because of it, or – more often – it’s because most people have a real challenge being honest and authentic with hurts from their past while also remaining loyal to their family. It's really hard for many people to acknowledge guilt or shame from their childhood without casting blame on their parents.

I've been a counselor for over 25 years, and I can tell you that almost every person that I've ever helped, even the ones who were in really difficult places as a result of how they grew up, had parents who did what they thought was best, even when they made some really bad choices in their parenting. Parents do what they think is right; they discipline and communicate in the best ways they know, because they are wired to do the best they can for their kids. Sometimes it does damage, and sometimes it does good.

But God is not doing just what He thinks is best for your life. He is truly and completely doing what is best. And as this passage suggests, we're in training to become something more than we could ever be on our own. God allows challenges to happen to us in order to bring us to maturity in relationship with Him, and in relationship with every important person in our lives.

Discipline, at least human discipline, can trigger embarrassment, guilt, or shame. After all, it usually means we’ve done something wrong, and we are experiencing the consequences of our actions. But what I hope to remind us, is that God never desires for us to land in embarrassment, guilt, or shame as a result of discipline. He desires for us to land safely and squarely in His grace, the place where we can learn and grow and thrive in our relationships with others and with Him.

The next verse in the Hebrews passage rounds out this message so beautifully. I like the way the NLT puts it:

So take a new grip with your tired hands and stand firm on your shaky legs.

Hebrews 12:12 NLT

There is hope! There is hope for the exhaustion we feel. There is hope for the shame we carry. There is hope that our Father God, who loves us personally and individually, will see us through our story and into freedom and wholeness.

Author: Dr. Richard Shaw

Dr. Richard Shaw is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Mental Health Counselor. He is an ordained minister with the International Foursquare Church and he is an Associate Professor of Counseling at George Fox University. He has traveled extensively in the U.S. and overseas to teach and facilitate workshops for his groundbreaking work around shame and grace. Richard is originally from the great state of Nebraska and currently lives with his wife, Karen, in the pacific Northwest. He loves both college and pro football and he enjoys spending time on the Oregon Coast. He has two adult children in education and ministry.

This excerpt is taken from Dr. Shaw’s book, Shame No More.